It has been entirely too long since my last post. I must get the wheels turning and get my blog on more often. I think that I will make my New Years resolution to blog more often and share all of the wonderful knowledge that I have accumulated over time.
My cousin sent me a Christmas card from Seattle , Washington. The card was so beautiful and tucked inside was a picture of her son and one of those great little letters that one feels like burning upon opening the card.
The beginning of her Christmas letter went something like this:
Hello again. Another year has passed and you are once again receiving a plethora of Christmas cards and letters wishing you a Merry Christmas and telling you all about their full lives. We , of course , know that you want to know all about little Susie piloting the space shuttle on her seventh birthday and how Tommy cured cancer for his 4th grade science project.
I found this hilarious because never does a year pass that we do not receive one of these letters that is so full of pretentious BS. The BS flows so freely that by the time we are done , you either laugh because this person has managed to make a complete idiot out of themselves with this brag fest or you have to tear the letter up into tiny pieces to get the anger out of your system.
I ask myself , why? Why do these people insist upon this brag fest? If anyone ever comes up with an answer to this , please send it my way.
I feel that it is unnecessary to prepare this lengthy letter of , "My kid is better than your kid in every way", when one has all year to post little tidbits , here and there on Facebook , to brag on their child in a way that does not teach their children that their you know what doesn't stink.
Hey , my child uses the can just like yours does and without pooping 24 carat gold.
I am as proud of my children as the next parent and I do post the exciting things going on in the lives of my children but when posting this info , I try my best to post it in a manner that does not make those around me feel inferior. With this being done throughout the year , I am able to leave the brag fest alone and post how much my friends and family mean to me.
This past year has been one of great blessings. It has been a year of successes but not without trying times. We all have them but we get through them with our family and friends. That being said , it is my family and friends that I am so thankful for because they were there for our family as Steve lost both parents in a matter of months. These are the things that I am proud of and want to share in my holiday memo.
I want to tell my family and friends that I love them and look forward to making time to spend with each and everyone that is near and dear to my heart.
I want to thank the soldiers who are fighting for our freedom as I type this message. They are risking their lives through this holiday season while we are at home in front of our beautiful Christmas trees and lights.
I am thankful for my husband and my children. I am proud of them in every way and love them all so very much.
My friends , this is what a Christmas greeting card should be. Who you are thankful for and not who did what and how great they did it. Leave the BS behind because no one wants to hear that pretentious garbage. Although it makes for good entertainment whenever we have friends over , it really is ridiculous.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year and always remember that LIFE IS GOOD!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Saturday, August 29, 2009
The Very Least That We Can Do
I am sitting down to type this blog today with a very heavy heart and frustration towards this country that we live in. What was once the land of opportunity ,has become a land of financial distress and a land that lacks in respect for those who protect our country.
My Father proudly served The United States Army for over 40 years. During those years , he was given the opportunity to not only serve his country ,but the opportunity to educate himself and prepare himself for a comfortable life throughout both his Military and Civilian careers.
My Father began serving in 1952. He worked hard and after a short stint in combat , he decided that the medical field was for him. Not only did he become a medic in the Army ,but the Army sent him to Nursing School on what is called the G I Bill. What an opportunity. As a matter of fact , back in those days , people not only joined the Army to protect their country but to get an education when it would have never been possible any other way.
My Father moved up the ranks with the Army , went to Anesthesia School and topped off his Army career as a Colonel. These things would not have been possible had it not been for the US Army and my Father served proudly. Never have I seen a man with a tear in his eye over our National Anthem until my Father and because of that , I have the same emotional ties.
My frustration comes today from an article that I read in the Mobile Register this morning. There is a special young man , Marine Corps Lance Corporal Robin Hernandez. He has served 3 tours in Iraq over 4 years. What an outstanding soldier. When I see a soldier such as Lance Cpl. Hernandez , I am proud to be part of this country.
Lance Cpl. Hernandez decided to further his education by enrolling at Faulkner State Community College on the G I Bill. He began his classes , only to find out a little later that he needed to pay his tuition in full. The government had been slow in processing reimbursement to the college.
I am simply appalled at this. First of all , I am not surprised by the lack of punctuality of this country paying the college the tuition. Look at the financial mess we are in. Will it ever get any better? I honestly do not know.
One thing that I do know is that even if this country never paid a dime to Faulkner State Community College , the least they could do is give this proud soldier an education , free of charge.
We are talking about a man who has put his life on the line over and over again for our country. This man left his home , his family and his country , to do what was needed. He knew when he signed up for the military that his job consisted of fighting for this country that we live in. In turn , this country promised benefits. One of those benefits being education.
If this country falls down on giving our soldiers what they deserve for fighting for and protecting our country ,then it is our job to take care of them. Shame on you , Faulkner State Community College. The thought should have never crossed your mind about sending this soldier a bill for his tuition. No wonder so many of today's youth turn their backs on serving this country.
We as a country should do everything we can to show our soldiers the respect and appreciation that they deserve. The job that they do for us , that is THE VERY LEAST THAT WE CAN DO.
My Father proudly served The United States Army for over 40 years. During those years , he was given the opportunity to not only serve his country ,but the opportunity to educate himself and prepare himself for a comfortable life throughout both his Military and Civilian careers.
My Father began serving in 1952. He worked hard and after a short stint in combat , he decided that the medical field was for him. Not only did he become a medic in the Army ,but the Army sent him to Nursing School on what is called the G I Bill. What an opportunity. As a matter of fact , back in those days , people not only joined the Army to protect their country but to get an education when it would have never been possible any other way.
My Father moved up the ranks with the Army , went to Anesthesia School and topped off his Army career as a Colonel. These things would not have been possible had it not been for the US Army and my Father served proudly. Never have I seen a man with a tear in his eye over our National Anthem until my Father and because of that , I have the same emotional ties.
My frustration comes today from an article that I read in the Mobile Register this morning. There is a special young man , Marine Corps Lance Corporal Robin Hernandez. He has served 3 tours in Iraq over 4 years. What an outstanding soldier. When I see a soldier such as Lance Cpl. Hernandez , I am proud to be part of this country.
Lance Cpl. Hernandez decided to further his education by enrolling at Faulkner State Community College on the G I Bill. He began his classes , only to find out a little later that he needed to pay his tuition in full. The government had been slow in processing reimbursement to the college.
I am simply appalled at this. First of all , I am not surprised by the lack of punctuality of this country paying the college the tuition. Look at the financial mess we are in. Will it ever get any better? I honestly do not know.
One thing that I do know is that even if this country never paid a dime to Faulkner State Community College , the least they could do is give this proud soldier an education , free of charge.
We are talking about a man who has put his life on the line over and over again for our country. This man left his home , his family and his country , to do what was needed. He knew when he signed up for the military that his job consisted of fighting for this country that we live in. In turn , this country promised benefits. One of those benefits being education.
If this country falls down on giving our soldiers what they deserve for fighting for and protecting our country ,then it is our job to take care of them. Shame on you , Faulkner State Community College. The thought should have never crossed your mind about sending this soldier a bill for his tuition. No wonder so many of today's youth turn their backs on serving this country.
We as a country should do everything we can to show our soldiers the respect and appreciation that they deserve. The job that they do for us , that is THE VERY LEAST THAT WE CAN DO.
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Every Neighborhood Has One
I find myself at a point of indecisiveness. There are two very important subjects that I have been painfully dealing with and both of them are just as important as the other. Therefore , I have decided that each will be covered with the same blog ability and words of wisdom that I am more than happy to donate to all of those interested.
I have decided that this blog will discuss trashy neighbors. Yes , I know , every neighborhood has a few ,but I cannot understand for the life of me as to why these people do not live in a broken down trailer park as opposed to living in my neighborhood , trashing it up by not keeping their yard up to the standards that the rest of us proudly keep our own.
I live in a nice and fairly new neighborhood. All of us tend to attempt to keep our yards decently groomed. Some more than others but you must understand that not everyone is a ,"Picasso of The Yard". Those of us who do not have this talent do keep our yards neat and acceptable to those around us.
As I am sure that you all know , there is always one who seems to think that they are above the rules and covenants of the neighborhood. This bunch lives about five or six houses down from me. I knew not even a month after I moved in here that they would be the neighborhood thugs. They are prime examples of why certain people do not belong in a nice neighborhood no matter how much money they may make a year. Some people just belong in a trailer park.
These people are evidently self employed in the concrete business. It was very easy to figure this out when not only did I see the name of their business , "Jeffery's Asphalt", plastered all over the back of their high priced vehicle that once again proves that you can put trash in a nice vehicle , no matter how much money they make but they also proceeded to pave an extra driveway up the side of their house and almost all of their backyard. This was done in order to park their machinery and a travel trailer for when they go out of town to work. For a while , I actually thought that they were housing what looked like a few illegals back there that may work for them. I can't totally prove that but it is a huge possibility.
When these people leave , they do absolutely nothing but pack up , hook up and head on out. They leave everything the way it was and do not show back up for months. They end up with all kinds of disconnect notices on their front door but worse than anything , they let their grass grow what looks like to be sometimes over five feet tall. This really ticks me off. Their yard is nothing more than a reptilian breeding ground and a vision of why trash belongs in one of those run down trailer parks that you see on the outskirts of town.
When these people do decide to return home , their work vehicles , machinery , etc are parked all up and down the side of the street. This causes the rest of us to nearly get hit head on trying to pass down one lane. These people also run the neighborhood on their four wheelers doing acrobatics and God knows what else.
I guess the point of my story is that there is always one that ruins the neighborhood for the rest of us and this problem could simply be solved by a background check and references from the neighborhood in which the lived before. Like a credit check!
Let's keep it classy people. Let's keep the trash out. This is a neighborhood where the majority of us are proud to be living here amongst one another but not amongst common trash that simply do not know how to live outside of their low social status. Stay on your own level of the social totem pole. Do not climb up to ours and ruin it for the rest of us.
I have decided that this blog will discuss trashy neighbors. Yes , I know , every neighborhood has a few ,but I cannot understand for the life of me as to why these people do not live in a broken down trailer park as opposed to living in my neighborhood , trashing it up by not keeping their yard up to the standards that the rest of us proudly keep our own.
I live in a nice and fairly new neighborhood. All of us tend to attempt to keep our yards decently groomed. Some more than others but you must understand that not everyone is a ,"Picasso of The Yard". Those of us who do not have this talent do keep our yards neat and acceptable to those around us.
As I am sure that you all know , there is always one who seems to think that they are above the rules and covenants of the neighborhood. This bunch lives about five or six houses down from me. I knew not even a month after I moved in here that they would be the neighborhood thugs. They are prime examples of why certain people do not belong in a nice neighborhood no matter how much money they may make a year. Some people just belong in a trailer park.
These people are evidently self employed in the concrete business. It was very easy to figure this out when not only did I see the name of their business , "Jeffery's Asphalt", plastered all over the back of their high priced vehicle that once again proves that you can put trash in a nice vehicle , no matter how much money they make but they also proceeded to pave an extra driveway up the side of their house and almost all of their backyard. This was done in order to park their machinery and a travel trailer for when they go out of town to work. For a while , I actually thought that they were housing what looked like a few illegals back there that may work for them. I can't totally prove that but it is a huge possibility.
When these people leave , they do absolutely nothing but pack up , hook up and head on out. They leave everything the way it was and do not show back up for months. They end up with all kinds of disconnect notices on their front door but worse than anything , they let their grass grow what looks like to be sometimes over five feet tall. This really ticks me off. Their yard is nothing more than a reptilian breeding ground and a vision of why trash belongs in one of those run down trailer parks that you see on the outskirts of town.
When these people do decide to return home , their work vehicles , machinery , etc are parked all up and down the side of the street. This causes the rest of us to nearly get hit head on trying to pass down one lane. These people also run the neighborhood on their four wheelers doing acrobatics and God knows what else.
I guess the point of my story is that there is always one that ruins the neighborhood for the rest of us and this problem could simply be solved by a background check and references from the neighborhood in which the lived before. Like a credit check!
Let's keep it classy people. Let's keep the trash out. This is a neighborhood where the majority of us are proud to be living here amongst one another but not amongst common trash that simply do not know how to live outside of their low social status. Stay on your own level of the social totem pole. Do not climb up to ours and ruin it for the rest of us.
Saturday, May 23, 2009
The Past 13 Years Of My Life
This weekend has been a weekend of celebrating the upcoming birthday of my precious and beautiful daughter , Shelby. She will be 13 on the 30th and will be with her Daddy on that day.
As I look back at the past 13 years of my life , there have been a lot of things that went on that I would love to erase , if possible. One thing that happened and is a constant reminder to me of just how wonderful like can be , was the birth of Shelby. She has shown me that even after making several mistakes and what I would consider , bad decisions, she is the one thing that I did right.
Shelby has brought so much joy into my life. She has been a daughter that I can be nothing but proud of. Her beauty , her talent , her heart that goes out to everyone and the Christian heart that she has had since the 4th grade.
Shelby amazes me as to how sometimes , she can be wise beyond her years. She amazes me with her dance. A God given talent that flows constantly through her veins. She also amazes me at how God lives in her heart. When Shelby dances , you can truly see all of these wonderful gifts about her. Sometimes it simply takes my breath away.
I am proud of Shelby in so many ways. I am proud of her choice of friends. When Shelby could easily get in with the wrong crowd in a school as big as the one that she attends , she has picked girls just like her. Girls with honesty and love in their hearts.
I love to watch Shelby with her baby brother. It is so funny to look back and remember while I was pregnant with Blake , how so many people told me that Shelby would be jealous of him after being an only child for so long. I couldn't imagine her being jealous like that. Shelby has never had a jealous bone in her body. As a matter of fact , I have seen Shelby actually be walked on and taken advantage of because of not having that kind of hatred in her heart. Shelby's love of her brother Blake goes beyond anything I have ever seen. The love between them is beautiful and brings me to tears when I think about it.
I have no idea what Shelby will do when she grows up but one thing that I know, it will make me proud.
Watching my daughter grow into the wonderful young girl that she has become has been an honor. It is an honor to be her Mother and I thank God everyday for the gift that he gave me almost 13 years ago. That gift has always been there for me. That gift loves me unconditionally. That gift is like none other I have ever received.
My life has become more than I ever could have imagined and I owe so much of that to Shelby.
Shelby, the past 13 years have been wonderful , beautiful and beyond my imagination and I cannot wait to see what the next 13 bring!
Thank you for being my daughter. Thank you for loving me and for loving Steve , Blake and everyone else in our family and friends , like you do. Everyone that knows you can count that as a blessing.
I am so proud to have you as my daughter! I love you with all of my heart!
As I look back at the past 13 years of my life , there have been a lot of things that went on that I would love to erase , if possible. One thing that happened and is a constant reminder to me of just how wonderful like can be , was the birth of Shelby. She has shown me that even after making several mistakes and what I would consider , bad decisions, she is the one thing that I did right.
Shelby has brought so much joy into my life. She has been a daughter that I can be nothing but proud of. Her beauty , her talent , her heart that goes out to everyone and the Christian heart that she has had since the 4th grade.
Shelby amazes me as to how sometimes , she can be wise beyond her years. She amazes me with her dance. A God given talent that flows constantly through her veins. She also amazes me at how God lives in her heart. When Shelby dances , you can truly see all of these wonderful gifts about her. Sometimes it simply takes my breath away.
I am proud of Shelby in so many ways. I am proud of her choice of friends. When Shelby could easily get in with the wrong crowd in a school as big as the one that she attends , she has picked girls just like her. Girls with honesty and love in their hearts.
I love to watch Shelby with her baby brother. It is so funny to look back and remember while I was pregnant with Blake , how so many people told me that Shelby would be jealous of him after being an only child for so long. I couldn't imagine her being jealous like that. Shelby has never had a jealous bone in her body. As a matter of fact , I have seen Shelby actually be walked on and taken advantage of because of not having that kind of hatred in her heart. Shelby's love of her brother Blake goes beyond anything I have ever seen. The love between them is beautiful and brings me to tears when I think about it.
I have no idea what Shelby will do when she grows up but one thing that I know, it will make me proud.
Watching my daughter grow into the wonderful young girl that she has become has been an honor. It is an honor to be her Mother and I thank God everyday for the gift that he gave me almost 13 years ago. That gift has always been there for me. That gift loves me unconditionally. That gift is like none other I have ever received.
My life has become more than I ever could have imagined and I owe so much of that to Shelby.
Shelby, the past 13 years have been wonderful , beautiful and beyond my imagination and I cannot wait to see what the next 13 bring!
Thank you for being my daughter. Thank you for loving me and for loving Steve , Blake and everyone else in our family and friends , like you do. Everyone that knows you can count that as a blessing.
I am so proud to have you as my daughter! I love you with all of my heart!
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Obnoxious Cell Phone Users
Recently on Facebook , I listed my Top 5 Pet Peeves. I love those Top 5 deals on Facebook. You can really learn a lot about your friends. They can be so entertaining.
One of my Top 5 listed were those who speak loudly on their cell phone in public , especially a restaurant. This has been one of my Pet Peeves for years. There is always one who thinks that he is so important that he must blast his conversation while I am trying to enjoy a peaceful meal. This person believes that he is so important that the rest of the world actually cares what he has to say.
This same person also finds it necessary to have his cell phone on ready so that he can start talking loudly on it immediately after our plane has landed and in the process of taxiing into the gate. This is a problem because according to my fave , Delta Airlines ,this can interfere with the plane's navigational system , possibly causing a collision on the runway. Now , if this happens while I am on the plane with this idiot , there is going to be quite a situation at hand.
These obnoxious people are usually those who crave attention and are trying to be something that they are not. They want those around to believe that they are corporately important and indispensable when they are simply 6:50 an hour wagers.
Let's be honest people. Everyone has a cell phone these days. Some people have even disconnected their home phones because of cell phones being so much more convenient and cheaper to operate. I have a cell phone , my husband has a cell phone and even my 12 year old daughter has one. Cell phones are a way of life.
No one is impressed by the fact that you are so stinking loud that you drown out the jet engine of a Boeing 767. What we care about is peace. Peace in the restaurant where we enjoy our meals and peace on the airplane as we come to the end of a beautiful flight and not have to worry about colliding with that other plane that is about to take off.
No one wants to know where you are going next , what you have to do tomorrow or anything else that you may have to discuss on your almighty Blackberry.
It's all about peace. That's all the world needs is just a little peace.
One of my Top 5 listed were those who speak loudly on their cell phone in public , especially a restaurant. This has been one of my Pet Peeves for years. There is always one who thinks that he is so important that he must blast his conversation while I am trying to enjoy a peaceful meal. This person believes that he is so important that the rest of the world actually cares what he has to say.
This same person also finds it necessary to have his cell phone on ready so that he can start talking loudly on it immediately after our plane has landed and in the process of taxiing into the gate. This is a problem because according to my fave , Delta Airlines ,this can interfere with the plane's navigational system , possibly causing a collision on the runway. Now , if this happens while I am on the plane with this idiot , there is going to be quite a situation at hand.
These obnoxious people are usually those who crave attention and are trying to be something that they are not. They want those around to believe that they are corporately important and indispensable when they are simply 6:50 an hour wagers.
Let's be honest people. Everyone has a cell phone these days. Some people have even disconnected their home phones because of cell phones being so much more convenient and cheaper to operate. I have a cell phone , my husband has a cell phone and even my 12 year old daughter has one. Cell phones are a way of life.
No one is impressed by the fact that you are so stinking loud that you drown out the jet engine of a Boeing 767. What we care about is peace. Peace in the restaurant where we enjoy our meals and peace on the airplane as we come to the end of a beautiful flight and not have to worry about colliding with that other plane that is about to take off.
No one wants to know where you are going next , what you have to do tomorrow or anything else that you may have to discuss on your almighty Blackberry.
It's all about peace. That's all the world needs is just a little peace.
Monday, May 4, 2009
What My Anniversary Means To Me.....
OK....Some of you are going to call this a mush fest (Lynn) but I am going to share my thoughts on my upcoming Anniversary on Wednesday 5/6. Why? You may ask. One reason is that this is the first time in my life that I can honestly say that I am celebrating a marriage that is solid , true and full of love and happiness.
My Anniversary means that the man that I married 3 years ago is not only the love of my life but he is my very best friend. Our love and friendship have grown more and more with each passing day.
It took a long time to get to the place where I am today. I had to go down roads of distrust and disappointment in order to get to my place of happiness. These roads are not regretted. Please understand that had I not been down those roads , I would not have learned what a real husband is capable of. A real husband that loves and respects his wife. A real husband that is capable of complete honesty.
I ran into Steve years back in a store. I knew then that there was something about him. Something different. Although I had known him since high school ,there was something about him that just kept me wondering. I ran into him again at a hospital that I was working in back in 2003. Once again , something kept me wondering. After seeing each other at a mutual friends house back in 2005 , we started going out as friends and quickly started dating. I knew and he knew that there was something special there. All of this lead to where we are now. Happily married.
We have joked around about the fact that we should have just started dating in high school. I wouldn't change a thing. It was worth every tear that I cried and every heartache that I felt.
Steve was my reward. The one true love that was there all along. Right in front of me!
I am celebrating the fact that we were meant for each other. I am celebrating the fact that I am thankful for the difficult road that lead me to Steve. I am celebrating a love like I never imagined possible. I am celebrating my best friend. The one who is there for me.
With Steve , what you see is what you get. I am so thankful for that. I love him for who he is. I love him for loving me. He is not only the most wonderful husband ,but a wonderful father to our son and no one could ask for a better stepfather for my daughter.
The day that Steve walked back into my life , my life began to be complete and now , complete is exactly what my life has become.
Thank you sweetie and Happy Anniversary!!!! I love you!
My Anniversary means that the man that I married 3 years ago is not only the love of my life but he is my very best friend. Our love and friendship have grown more and more with each passing day.
It took a long time to get to the place where I am today. I had to go down roads of distrust and disappointment in order to get to my place of happiness. These roads are not regretted. Please understand that had I not been down those roads , I would not have learned what a real husband is capable of. A real husband that loves and respects his wife. A real husband that is capable of complete honesty.
I ran into Steve years back in a store. I knew then that there was something about him. Something different. Although I had known him since high school ,there was something about him that just kept me wondering. I ran into him again at a hospital that I was working in back in 2003. Once again , something kept me wondering. After seeing each other at a mutual friends house back in 2005 , we started going out as friends and quickly started dating. I knew and he knew that there was something special there. All of this lead to where we are now. Happily married.
We have joked around about the fact that we should have just started dating in high school. I wouldn't change a thing. It was worth every tear that I cried and every heartache that I felt.
Steve was my reward. The one true love that was there all along. Right in front of me!
I am celebrating the fact that we were meant for each other. I am celebrating the fact that I am thankful for the difficult road that lead me to Steve. I am celebrating a love like I never imagined possible. I am celebrating my best friend. The one who is there for me.
With Steve , what you see is what you get. I am so thankful for that. I love him for who he is. I love him for loving me. He is not only the most wonderful husband ,but a wonderful father to our son and no one could ask for a better stepfather for my daughter.
The day that Steve walked back into my life , my life began to be complete and now , complete is exactly what my life has become.
Thank you sweetie and Happy Anniversary!!!! I love you!
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Great Seafood , Pretensious Mothers and Back Stabbing Kids!
Interesting topic combination , don't ya think? The reason behind it is ,I did promise a critique on my recent visit to Banana Docks and as usual , something needs to be addressed as to how some people are so pretentious that it is nauseating.
Steve and I went to Banana Docks last weekend for his birthday. It was so nice. We were there with the usual afternoon Senior crowd getting ripped back like sheet metal and just listening to them carry on was entertainment in itself.
While there , we had the most wonderful fried dill pickles imaginable. Here lately , when I have had them at other restaurants , they are too greasy and or too salty. These were perfect. They also brought out their slaw along with the dill pickles. I usually turn my nose up at slaw unless it is from the old Cock of The Walk. This slaw was totally different. Hardly any mayonnaise , if any and it had just enough vinegar without making you choke to death at the dinner table.
My sister in law Mary Lynn , who is also a connoisseur of fine foods , sent me a coupon via e mail for buy one Seafood Platter at regular price and get the other platter for half price. What a deal! The platter had fried flounder , which was to die for because most seafood platters have not so great fried fish on them. It also had fried shrimp , crab claws and oysters. Not to mention the hush puppies and wonderful creole green beans. Everything was perfect. Nothing was over battered and the size of the shrimp , crab claws and oysters was awesome.
I recommend Banana Docks to everyone! It may be a little hole in the wall on Hillcrest Road but it is better than any other seafood restaurants around here or on the water!
Pretension.....I have been thinking about this word a lot lately. Especially now that I have an almost 13 year old daughter. I want her to learn to be true to herself. I want her to be her own person and never feel that she has to lie or put on a fakeness to get somewhere in life or to have friends. 13 can be difficult. I can remember when I was 13 and changed schools. It was difficult. Deciding which crowd to run with and at the same time trying to be popular and liked by my peers. Pre-teens and teens can be cruel at this age and we have witnessed it on more than one occasion at Shelby's school that she attended from K4 - 6th grade.
Since moving Shelby to Faith Academy , we have learned that there are many different groups in a school this big. This gives her the opportunity to start making choices. Good choices and bad. Shelby being the Christian girl that she is , has made wonderful choices in her friends this year. I have noticed that they are true , honest and never pretend to be something they are not and never do they turn their back on each other. We dealt with this at Shelby's other school. We learned that while Shelby was struggling for some grades , some of her so called friends were cheating , making straight A's and being placed on the honor roll. Yes , these were Bible toting little Christians who their parents seem to think that the sun and moon rises in them.
In addition to cheating , we also found out that once they have used the child up for whatever talent , be it sports , cheer leading or whatever , they simply cast them aside by using lies and hearsay from other students without getting to the truth. My precious Shelby has even heard rumor as recent as this year from a fellow student at Faith Academy that is on a swim team with an ex friend of hers from her old school that was untrue. Amazing.
What has blown my mind is how these parents constantly put their children up on a pedestal as if they do no wrong. I love my Shelby and I think that she is talented , beautiful , etc but there is a line to be drawn when there is simply too much. To brag on one's child is great but let's be truthful. Let's be real. Putting that child up on a pedestal where he or she sounds as though they are sitting on a throne next to God right now is a little much. Especially when that child has cheated and treated others as if they were beneath them. One day , you will get yours. That child is going to blow your mind while the rest of us sit back and watch. No child is perfect.
I am so thankful that my Shelby is the Christian girl that she is. I am thankful that she has seen what true friends are. As much as it hurt for her to go through some of the things that she did at her last school , it was worth it to learn that just because someone claims to be a Christian , doesn't mean that they are. You choose your friends carefully. When you are talking with someone and they divert their attention from you whenever someone else walks up and they start talking to them as if no one is there , they are not a true friend.
Shelby will celebrate her upcoming 13th Birthday with her new friends that she has made over this past year at Faith Academy. They will celebrate the precious friend that Shelby is to them. The love that they have for her and the genuine friendships that they have all cultivated and continue to grow together! True friends. Friends that will stand up for her no matter what.
Steve and I went to Banana Docks last weekend for his birthday. It was so nice. We were there with the usual afternoon Senior crowd getting ripped back like sheet metal and just listening to them carry on was entertainment in itself.
While there , we had the most wonderful fried dill pickles imaginable. Here lately , when I have had them at other restaurants , they are too greasy and or too salty. These were perfect. They also brought out their slaw along with the dill pickles. I usually turn my nose up at slaw unless it is from the old Cock of The Walk. This slaw was totally different. Hardly any mayonnaise , if any and it had just enough vinegar without making you choke to death at the dinner table.
My sister in law Mary Lynn , who is also a connoisseur of fine foods , sent me a coupon via e mail for buy one Seafood Platter at regular price and get the other platter for half price. What a deal! The platter had fried flounder , which was to die for because most seafood platters have not so great fried fish on them. It also had fried shrimp , crab claws and oysters. Not to mention the hush puppies and wonderful creole green beans. Everything was perfect. Nothing was over battered and the size of the shrimp , crab claws and oysters was awesome.
I recommend Banana Docks to everyone! It may be a little hole in the wall on Hillcrest Road but it is better than any other seafood restaurants around here or on the water!
Pretension.....I have been thinking about this word a lot lately. Especially now that I have an almost 13 year old daughter. I want her to learn to be true to herself. I want her to be her own person and never feel that she has to lie or put on a fakeness to get somewhere in life or to have friends. 13 can be difficult. I can remember when I was 13 and changed schools. It was difficult. Deciding which crowd to run with and at the same time trying to be popular and liked by my peers. Pre-teens and teens can be cruel at this age and we have witnessed it on more than one occasion at Shelby's school that she attended from K4 - 6th grade.
Since moving Shelby to Faith Academy , we have learned that there are many different groups in a school this big. This gives her the opportunity to start making choices. Good choices and bad. Shelby being the Christian girl that she is , has made wonderful choices in her friends this year. I have noticed that they are true , honest and never pretend to be something they are not and never do they turn their back on each other. We dealt with this at Shelby's other school. We learned that while Shelby was struggling for some grades , some of her so called friends were cheating , making straight A's and being placed on the honor roll. Yes , these were Bible toting little Christians who their parents seem to think that the sun and moon rises in them.
In addition to cheating , we also found out that once they have used the child up for whatever talent , be it sports , cheer leading or whatever , they simply cast them aside by using lies and hearsay from other students without getting to the truth. My precious Shelby has even heard rumor as recent as this year from a fellow student at Faith Academy that is on a swim team with an ex friend of hers from her old school that was untrue. Amazing.
What has blown my mind is how these parents constantly put their children up on a pedestal as if they do no wrong. I love my Shelby and I think that she is talented , beautiful , etc but there is a line to be drawn when there is simply too much. To brag on one's child is great but let's be truthful. Let's be real. Putting that child up on a pedestal where he or she sounds as though they are sitting on a throne next to God right now is a little much. Especially when that child has cheated and treated others as if they were beneath them. One day , you will get yours. That child is going to blow your mind while the rest of us sit back and watch. No child is perfect.
I am so thankful that my Shelby is the Christian girl that she is. I am thankful that she has seen what true friends are. As much as it hurt for her to go through some of the things that she did at her last school , it was worth it to learn that just because someone claims to be a Christian , doesn't mean that they are. You choose your friends carefully. When you are talking with someone and they divert their attention from you whenever someone else walks up and they start talking to them as if no one is there , they are not a true friend.
Shelby will celebrate her upcoming 13th Birthday with her new friends that she has made over this past year at Faith Academy. They will celebrate the precious friend that Shelby is to them. The love that they have for her and the genuine friendships that they have all cultivated and continue to grow together! True friends. Friends that will stand up for her no matter what.
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